8 Things I Learned From Not Drinking
I never thought I would be here, be this girl, be a sober girl. But here I am and here is what I have learned from not drinking and what continues to keep me sober. Through these lessons, I have learned and applied what I need to do in order to recover, heal and create a life I am proud of.
1. Those who matter don't mind, and those who mind don't matter
My "friendships" changed drastically when I stopped numbing myself. The people that took offensive to me not drinking and being a complete jerk like the rest of them, fell off. It was as if the trash took itself out.
2. Water seeks its own level
I have never ever met so many sober or non-drinking people in the most unexpected ways. Because I have been so open with my life and my choices, my water level has risen and I find myself connecting with like-minded people. It feels like coming home. It's almost effortless when you meet someone on the same wave length or level as you.
3. You are what you eat
The gut is your second brain, and quite possibly your first. What I consume and put in my body affects me. Not only physically but emotionally. A healthy diet is the highest form of self-respect. When I eat right I feel right, inside and out.
4. Working out is NOT a luxury
Moving my body is mandatory. This is a non-negotiable. When I push my body and expand and strengthen my physical self, my mind follows. It adapts to situations I may want to give up and slack off in. Working out makes me feel good about myself, I feel sexy and proud of my body after a work out.
5. Connection is key
Connecting with your environment, friends, family, a higher power or spiritual force and most importantly, connecting to yourself. Discovering who you are and what makes you tick. How you love and want to be loved. What makes you excited and what hinders you in life is key.
6. Idle time is the devil’s playground
This was always my downfall. Every time I found myself with a few hours to spare, my mind would play tricks on me. It would poke and prod me to fill my idle time with alcohol so that I wouldn't have to think about what I wasn't doing or what I should have been doing. Working from home and for yourself, idle time can be plenty if you allow it. Finding a steady routine reduced my idle time.
7. Drinking isn't bad
Consuming alcohol is not a bad thing to do. Alcohol or drugs are not the enemy. Its how they make you feel and why you are using these particular substances to mask your pain, trauma or whatever you need to deal with in order to heal. Anything can become addictive. It’s not right or wrong, you aren't a bad person for drinking. However it is a huge disservice to continue to allow this hurt and pain to fester inside of you to the point that it ruins your life and the people around you.
8. You are loved
I love you! You are loved by people you don't even know yet. There are so many communities to belong to and people who are waiting to love you and welcome you with open arms. Get out there, find and give love, and know that you are loved.
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